photo courtesy of Melissa Pennington Photography
People are interesting critters. Their behaviors can be predictable or spontaneous. Attitudes can be loud or somber. But the behavior and attitude, I believe, stem from one place…motive.
MOTIVE – noun
Motive is a sneaky, deceptive thing. It is often hidden in the word motivation or motivated. Don’t get me wrong, being a motivated person is an admirable attribute, but the degree of admiration is contingent on what the motive is in the motivation.
It is often unclear what a person’s motive is because you are blinded by their behavior and attitude. Their lively attitude that presents itself though wit and goodwill behavior is generally the focus; not their motive that drives the actions.
You see, behavior and attitude are interpreted at the surface level whereas motive lies underneath and is hard to recognize. Reevaluate the relationships around you and look deeper to discover the ‘why.’ Ask the question ‘why’ to those around you to better understand their motive towards you. Why do you like to spend time with me? Why is it that I am a priority to you? Why do you want me on this work project?
Often when people have a negative or selfish motive, they discard the means to achieve this fulfilled motive. Do not allow yourself to be the means that someone uses to achieve their motive. This is just an invitation to sideline yourself. This principle is applicable in a relationship, occupation, and life in general.
Don’t allow yourself to be sidelined.
You deserve to be on the front line.